Planning a wedding involves not only planning the grand ceremony, but also preparing for married life. While this sounds obvious, this was a lesson I had to learn this past month as the wedding slowly dawns on us.
This past month, we finalised a few of the remaining items on the wedding to-do list. We found an elegant dress for our lovely flower girl at Chocolates for Breakfast. As I mentioned in last month’s blog, my bridesmaids and I met with Heather from Chocolates for Breakfast, and after choosing the perfect dresses, and a colour to compliment each one of the gorgeous girls, we met with Heather again to make the dress arrangements for our flower girl. While I’ve admired their beautiful dresses online for months before our meeting, it was thanks to Majestic Weddings that my dream for my bridesmaids and flower girl to wear dresses from Chocolates for Breakfasts became a reality with a collab!
A few week ago, we were also able to sit down and decide on the decor and flowers for the wedding, and it was amazing to see our vision come to life as Lynley from Floral Creations and The Hire Warehouse worked her magic to create the look and feel we were hoping to achieve for our big day.
And while all of this excitement and planning has been enormously fun, I realised that I had been putting all my energy into planning a wedding (and saving a few extra Rands for micellaneous wedding goodies), but something was missing. I had forgotten to start planning for life after the big ‘I do’! Finding a place to stay, preparing a home, saving money for appliances and furniture, discussing our hopes and dreams for married life – these are some of the things that had slipped my mind. While everyone has been asking about wedding planning, it was only when a friend asked where we are planning to stay AFTER the wedding that I realised the importance of preparing for life after we’ve said our vows.
I hear you – I sound naive, and I understand – it’s a big thing to have ‘forgotten’. But with so much on my mind, can you blame me? Well yes, you probably can! I’ve approached wedding planning from a selfish point of view, and I’ve made it all about ‘me’ instead of ‘we’. Brides before me have done it, and brides to come will make the same mistake. It’s so easy to get swept up in the moment and allow the waves of wedding admin to hurriedly carry you away, until you can no longer see the shore, where your husband-to-be is anxiously waving in the hopes that you’ll turn around and quickly swim back to shore. It sounds like a silly analogy, but that’s how it feels sometimes!
And so, my lesson learned, I swam back to shore and shifted my mindset, putting the focus back on us, and the home and life we hope to build together after the wedding. While I have made the most of planning a wedding, and had so much fun doing it, this is also an important time when it comes to building a future together. At the end of the day, there’s no place like home, and home is where ‘we’ are.
Once again, I would like to thank Majestic Weddings for their support, and for making the collaboration with Chocolates for Breakfast a reality! If you’re planning a wedding, don’t forget to take a look at their website for inspiration, and wedding planning tips. If you sign up for an account, you’ll get access to helpful tools and resources, from inspiration boards and a to-do list, to a budget tracker, seating planner, and an invite tracker. The best part is you can access all these tools on your phone when you download the free mobile app, which is available on Google Play and the App Store.